Being a member of the massively multiplayer online world (in this case, City of Heroes) does have its hazards. You've got griefers who live to make a player's life a living hell by stealing shit and acting like asshats. There's the people who are nice enough, but have no idea how to play in a group at all -- which can kill an entire group in a worst-case scenario.
And there's my favorites -- complete strangers who need to know if I'm a man or a woman behind the screen.
I got another one of those messages today from player. "OMG! That's such a cute costume. U better not be a boy!"
Who the fuck cares if it's a man or a woman? I don't care of it's a man, woman, Wookiee or sentient homosexual transgender chicken at the controls as long as you can play well and not chat too damn much.
For some people it might matter. I mean, the gaming world is notoriously laden with testesterone and the XY chromosomes. It does matter to me based on how the overall game is structured. For one example of the worst end of the gaming culture, see The Guy Game -- which mixes a bad trivia game with titties. That's where I'll take up the feminist flag and rip the industry a new one.
But for City of Heroes, I don't give a fuck. The player has more control over how they want their character to act and behave. While some people may desire the social aspect, I really don't need it. I'm there to play with friends instead of engaging in cybersex, chat or other stuff like that. If I wanted that, I'd play the Sims Online. I'm here to play dammit. And I don't care who's behind the keyboard as long as they can play.