Sunday, February 17, 2008

Hey Ladies!

Last night, Jeff and I had friends over for a little Metalocalypse and pizza, when one of our friends mentioned the Brad Pitt rule. Long story short:

Imagine that instead of you, Brad Pitt had asked this same woman out. Would she use the same excuse with him? If Brad Pitt asked her on a date, would she still say she had to study or was going to the movies with friends that night? Nope. She would have dropped. pretty much anything and everything to be able to accept a date with Brad.
I can't really disagree with that rule (even though I'm happily married I'd probably be tempted to ask Jeff for permission for a date with Brad Pitt). But I was pretty straightforward in my meeting and dating Jeff. My personal romantic hero is Pepe Le Pew, so obviously, subtly is not my thing. What I find interesting is some of the comments from women who say, "Yeah, but..." or "That's totally wrong."

I don't know for sure, but I have a lot of female friends -- what say you about the Brad Pitt rule?

ETA -- I have to point out that the blog post adds that if a woman has plans and wants to be with the guy, "she will suggest a different time for the date. She will say something along the lines of 'I can’t do it Saturday night, do you want to hang out next weekend?'"

And that's where the Brad Pitt rule cinches it for me. If a woman/guy/tree/rock/goat is into you, and they can't make the Friday night you suggest, they'll suggest an alternative. If not, they're not into you and don't waste your time.

Oh, and I think that Brad Pitt is chosen because he's the easiest heartthrob that seems to cut across all lines. You could easily insert George Clooney/Johnny Depp/Sean Bean/Kevin Smith (*ducks*) into the picture. But the point is still the same.


Heather said...

See, Brad's not quite my type, but that's beside the point.

My only qualm with the Brad Pitt rule is that only a complete jerk would ask you to ditch your friends/howework/work as if you only had ONE SHOT with them.

Maybe that is true for some Hollywood hotshot, but seriously, a normal guy can't expect a girl to ditch her plans for him. And he shouldn't take it as a complete rejection if she says "Not tonight, I'm already..."

The real question is whether she's ameniable to making any plans with you. If she's got an excuse for every day of the week, well, then you know to bugger off.

K. said...

Dumb rule. If I have other plans, then I will just say "I've got plans tonight, but let's hang out tomorrow/friday/next week." Brad Pitt or no. Like Heather, I think that a dude that takes your previously scheduled plans as a rejection is a dude with a fragile ego. There's a difference between avoidance and merely having shit you need to do.

But also it's Brad Pitt, who is kinda meh for me though replace "Brad Pitt" with like "Chris Cornell" or "Ewan Mc Gregor" and I'd be like "fuck you guys, I've got a date tonight.

Eva said...

Let's see... If Brad Pitt asked me on a date? I think I can honestly say that even when I was single my answer would have been something along the lines of, "It's sweet of you to ask, but I really wouldn't be comfortable going out with you." I mean besides the paparazzi, who is Brad Pitt? He's some random guy who's handsome and perhaps has some acting talent. That's not really what I want in a date. To be fair, I'm not sure I would date anyone that much older than me or that much better looking.

*shrugs* Perhaps I'm just a weirdo.

Eva said...

As far as the general rule? I think it's all in how the woman responds to the question. If she says, "Well I don't know. I'm busy with X that night." it's less auspicious than, "Damn, I'd really like to but I have to do X. Are you free on Y or Z this week?"

QuietlyGoingMad said...

I'm going to change the name to the "Ryan Reynolds" rule and I'm going to let you all know right now...if I have the chance to go on a date with him I will drop anyone and anything to do so! Period.

Also included in this rule are Chris Cornell, Rob Zombie, Paul Blackthorne, Alex O'Laughlin, and Stuart Townsend.

Anyone outside of that list will just have to deal with me having other plans--even if those plans are me sitting on my sofa eating a pint of B&J Americone Dream!

And I agree with what Heather & K said...fragile egos are a pain in the ass to deal with.

Then again, I too work by the Pepe Le Pew rule of seductions.