So I've been thinking for a bit about sexual politics -- thanks to a comment made on Keidra's blog about wanting a sugar daddy so she could have the job of her dreams. And the one question that I have running through my head is the following:
Are you a bad feminist if you want a sugar daddy/mamma to support your dream job?
Sorry to get all Carrie Bradshaw on ya'll, but I've been kicking this idea around for awhile. Maybe it's the situation that I'm in that makes me mull this over. Without Jeff's income, we wouldn't have the bobo lifestyle that we have right now. A lifestyle that I will freely admit that I love. It's comfortable, we're not eating cat food and we're doing what we want and there's no worries. That's not to say that I don't love Jeff. I do love the man -- anyone who knows us sees that obviously. We both just got lucky that he knows computers.
One of my friends doesn't think it's bad feminism. "It's allowing you to do what you want, so why not?" she said. I'm still on the fence. To me, there's something different about happening to be with someone who makes an assload more moola than you do than seeking out a person to support your endeavors. Where that line is, I don't know.
But even in a loving relationship, the money politics can be there. I can feel it sometimes when I think about how much my job makes and how much Jeff's makes. It's not a cool feeling knowing that if he happened to become unemployed for whatever reason *heaven forbid* we're fucked. My job barely makes the living wage here -- there's no way we could afford what we've got now with just my salary.
Another person I know is in a similar situation to the one I outlined above. She earned far less than her husband -- until he lost his job. Now she's the primary breadwinner and I know she doesn't earn much more than I do.
So I want to hear from the approximately five or less readers on this blog. What's your feelings on sugar mammas/daddies? Are you a bad feminist if you're depending on them to do what you love?